Pr. 20:6: “Most men will proclaim each his own goodness, but who can find a faithful man?”
I read a chapter in a book to my kids yesterday and, after I finished, I asked them what happened. My daughter gave a quick answer, but my son was distracted and didn’t appear to be prepared to speak. I asked him a question about it and, after pretending to think about the answer, he said he didn’t remember. I asked him some specific questions about the story about things that would have stood out, and found out that he had not been listening at all…for the entire chapter!! Grrrrr. I was pretty frustrated.
Now what? Was I to read the entire chapter over just for him? Skip it and just recap it for him? Make him read it on his own? (It’s way above his “grade level” but that could be a good reminder for him) Or perhaps I should just give up on that book entirely since it obviously didn’t grab his attention? Anyway…
I was so frustrated at that moment that I decided it would be best if we moved on to another school subject. I would decide what to do about the book later, but I was stewing on the inside.
Boy did he throw off my vibe for the day and my plans for our book reading time. Why couldn’t he just listen? Why didn’t I just make him sit beside me like I usually did? So many questions. So much stewing. Why couldn’t he just be perfect, right? haha!
How many times have my kids tried to talk to me and I’ve been doing something else and giving them half of my attention? How many times have they told me all about something they’ve been working hard on in Minecraft and, while I “listened” to them enough to appease them, I couldn’t repeat it to you now if I had to because it didn’t really matter to me?
I know I’m not the only one. We are all guilty of things like this. When we see the faults in others, we compare their faults to our strengths. That’s not really fair, is it? Like this verse says, we all proclaim our own goodness, but not one of us are faithful. Not 100%. We are all just doing the best we can.
It’s good that we know who we are in Christ and that we have confidence in ourselves. It’s when we start thinking ourselves better than those around us that we begin to err. We have no business comparing ourselves with others…especially not fault to strength. We each have our faults and we each have our strengths. That’s why we work so well together as ‘the body’ of Christ; each having our own part to play.
Today is a new day. My son will be sitting beside me today as we read, but my understanding cap is on and we will get through this together.