Pr. 17:27: “He who has knowledge spares his words, and a man of understanding is of a calm spirit.”
Sometimes it’s what we don’t say that makes all the difference.
Although we aren’t “rebel-rousers,” getting into all kinds of mischief, Donnie and I upset someone on our vacation last week. We apparently broke a rule, and boy did the person in charge get upset.
At first we thought he was just letting us know, since it was clear that we were unaware. By the time he got done talking at us, he was so upset that he called the police. Donnie’s version of this story is different than mine…apparently there were lots of words that Donnie spared when we were confronted by this man. I was kind of in shock at the level of anger he was displaying.
We both remained calm and simply told the man that he should do what he thought was best. 30 minutes later, the police pulled up and spoke to us. We admitted to breaking the rule and apologized that it was because of our actions that he had to drive out to where we were. The police officer was very nice and understanding of the circumstance, simply insisting that we no longer break the rules.
I know how many other ways that situation could have gone. There could have been yelling, fighting, etc. between us and the man or even us and the police officer. Someone certainly could have been arrested. We could have been rude and gotten a ticket. We could have even pushed our side and maybe ‘put the man in his place’, but certainly not offered mercy.
I am thankful for role knowledge and understanding took in our lives in that moment. After the man spoke to us, our kids, who were with us, were upset. They were worried that we would be arrested, or that even they would. We were able to use that as a teaching moment.
Had we gotten upset, said every word that crossed our minds, or argued and fought, we would not have been able to calmly and unquestionably show and tell our kids that God takes care of us. No matter what happens, we told them, God takes care of us; and we showed that by behaving as though we really believed it. And God, indeed took care of us.
Our kids were able to see an example of how choosing to be calm and spare your words can truly work best. That’s especially good at their age, when they think that almost anything is worth arguing about. ha! No matter how things turn out, choosing to trust God is never the wrong decision.
It’s clear that all this wisdom and understanding we’re gaining from God’s Word is truly worth more than gold or silver. Keeping a situation from blazing out of control is priceless.
Calmly preparing to enter my day,