Pr. 31:26: “She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.”
Being around children all day, I am acutely aware that kindness on the tongue is not something that happens by accident. We are born pretty selfish, self-serving, and self-absorbed. Tenderness, affection, and courtesy are attributes that take time and training to develop.
That training should not end when we are grown. As adults, we must make sure that we are still training ourselves to be kind. It is something that can still be lost if not nurtured. Where can we find kindness in this world? I’m glad you asked. The Word of God teaches us in Eph. 4:32, “be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.”
Eph. 5:2 tells us to, “walk in love.” Ph. 2:3 says, “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.” Col. 3:12-13 urges us, “Therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering: bearing with one another, and forgiving one another…”
I could go on and on. There are numerous verses about kindness, affection, forgiveness, and bearing with one another. Why so many? We were born selfish. Just as when we were kids, we need constant reminders. If we are to have the law of kindness on our tongues, men and women alike, we must be sensitive to the rebukes and reminders we find from the Lord.
Also, when we are walking in the Spirit, it is evident by the fruit He produces within us: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. With God at the helm of our lives, this fruit will naturally be brought forth in our lives.
Wisdom and kindness come from the Lord. If we are tarrying in His presence, studying and absorbing His Word, asking for His guidance throughout our days, and listening for His still-small voice to speak His wisdom, then we will be full of Him and walking in the Spirit. This is when we will be one who opens their mouth with wisdom, and has the law of kindness on their tongue.
If you want to be someone like that, stick with God. If He can bring forth water from a rock to refresh thousands, He can certainly help us speak kind words to refresh those around us. 🙂