Pr. 17:9: “He who covers a transgression seeks love, but he who repeats a matter separates friends.”
Have you ever been in a relationship where you’ve been given a list of all the wrongs you’ve done throughout the entirety of the relationship? Maybe its been 2 months, maybe its been 2 years, but the list seems to encompass every wrong you could possibly have committed. This can happen in any type of relationship. I’ve actually been given more than one list in my lifetime. Apparently I’m wrong a lot. Ha!
Of course, we all make mistakes. We hurt others intentionally and unintentionally. We can be inconsiderate. Sometimes we are selfish. Other times, actions or words are simply misunderstood, or the benefit of the doubt is not given. Whatever the reason for the existence of strife in a relationship, there is a truth in this proverb that is important.
All types of relationships have discord of some type; however, there is a key element that will enable any relationship to prosper: forgiveness. If we are truly seeking love, we can choose to bear with one another, and forgive.
That’s the beauty of our relationship with our Father. Not only does He forgive, but He also forgets. Heb. 8:12, “For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their lawless deeds I will remember no more.” Is. 43:25, “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins.”
We were created with good memories. It is not easy for us to forget grievances, but we can still forgive and choose not to dwell on the wrongs done to us. Matthew 6:14-15 tells us something important about forgiveness: “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
While the Lord is more than willing to forgive, and certainly faithful to forget, our own offering of forgiveness determines whether or not He will do so. It is not just good that we forget. It is imperative!
We know that we aren’t perfect; however, sometimes we expect perfection from others around us. It can be a co-worker, a friend, a parent, a sibling, a neighbor, or a spouse. Whoever it is, try to remember they’re not perfect either. Whatever the relationship, forgiveness is the key.
If you’re the one not being forgiven, then look to your Savior who has not only forgiven, but forgotten. He isn’t keeping a list of your wrongs, but has cast your sins as far as the east is from the west and will remember them no more. There is One who seeks to show you love. Jesus showed it on the cross. The Holy Spirit shows it in His comforting. The Father shows it in His faithful forgiveness. You are loved…and forgiven.